Dating app leads to '˜one night stand' culture
Men believed they were “entitled” to have casual sex to compensate for the “breach of trust,” suggests the study.
She told the British Sociological Association’s annual conference in Birmingham: “Many of our respondents felt let down on meeting a woman and on feeling a visual representation hadn’t been accurate.
“Some of our respondents felt this breaking of trust was a licence to use their date as they saw fit, thereby speeding up intimacy and undermining it at the same time.”
A 29-year-old man told her: “I’ve been very misled by very selective pictures, angles when the person isn’t as attractive or as slim or sporty as they make out on pictures.
“I try to swerve if possible, or get something out of it.”
One 37-year-old man who took part in the study said: “I am looking for a long term relationship, but you know within seconds of meeting someone whether that’s going to happen.”
Another 34-year-old man who uses Tinder said: “What I will say is that it is natural for human beings to take advantage of each other, and Tinder hasn’t changed this, but it has made it easier.”
A 38-year-old man said: “I went to meet her in a bar in the Northern Quarter and I could see that she was really fat.
“If it had been the kind of bar where I could have left without her seeing me, I would have done, but I was stuck there.” They ended up having a one-night stand.
Dr van Hooff, who worked with fellow Manchester Metropolitan sociologist Professor Steve Miles on the research, said: “We wanted to find out how Tinder affected the nature of our participants’ relationships and intimacies.
“The self-promotion encouraged by digital culture appears to undermine authenticity in romantic encounters, often leading to disappointment in our participants’ experiences.
“Everyone sees themselves as behaving honestly, while presenting a best possible branded version of themselves. Yet many of our respondents felt let down on meeting a woman and on feeling a visual representation hadn’t been accurate.
“One respondent reported meeting a date who appeared to be 20 years older than her online self.
“Computer communication enhances the ability to selectively self-present through an increased ability to control the signs given off, allowing the presentation of a carefully crafted, edited impression.
“Men interviewed feel betrayed, although of course they engage in this as well.”
She added: “We explored whether the choice of dating apps implies changes the dating experience.
“Some research has suggested online dating has led to new kinds of freedoms and equalities, and although we found evidence of a casualisation of relationships, traditionally gendered scripts can still be said to predominate interactions, both on and offline.”
The researchers found Tinder and other dating apps had “commodified” relationships at the same time as making them more available.
Dr van Hooff said this could be liberating for men, but also make them feel vulnerable about how attractive and successful they were with women.
She added: “The ready access of potential matches intensified feelings, so that on meeting a connection is already established, however this also makes it more disposable, with relationships being ended quickly with little or no explanation - with Tinder, intimacy is speeded up, as one participant claimed.
“The research found that in many respects dating apps appear to accentuate traditionally gendered norms, rather than providing a space that’s removed from wider gender inequalities.”